Today is a very special day.  It is the birthday of Mark’s older brother Jay, who tragically lost his life in a motorcycle accident in September of 2008.  He will forever be alive in our hearts and the memories of those who knew and loved him.  I wish I could say that I knew him, but unfortunately I only met him once, on Halloween in 2007.  Mark and I had been dating for a year and his brother and his wife were in town so we had them over for dinner.  I remember that he was quiet, and tall and handsome.  His wife was really sweet and kept talking about their new puppy, calling him “crazy Charlie”.  I kept having to have her repeat it though because I couldn’t understand what she was saying (she is from Spain, very strong accent).  They were kind and gentle people and I felt as though they were already family to me.  And then a year later, he was gone.  I was angry for a long time because I never had the chance to get to know him.  But that pales in comparison to the feelings of loss and pain that Mark and his family carry with them everyday.  Thankfully, his spirit and beauty live on in his son Jay David, born just two weeks after he passed.

our nephew J.D.


Happy Birthday Jay, we love and miss you.


2 thoughts on “Jay

  1. Melissa, Thank You so much for this wonderful post for Jay in honor of his 37th birthday. Yes, Jay will live on in our hearts and memories as long as we live. And yes, JD will live on in the memory of his father. I know you know, but I just wanted to also mention that the David in JD’s name is in honor of the young man who was killed along with Jay in that terrible day in Sep. 2008. Grandma and I Love you for being the wonderful Dau-in-Law you are. We are so blessed.

  2. very well said Melissa. i am sorry to have never met him but feel like i knew him thru his wonderful family. JD is truly beautiful!! my love goes out to the Ritchie family on Jay’s special day!!! thank you for sharing. xoxo

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