Today is a very special day. It is the birthday of Mark’s older brother Jay, who tragically lost his life in a motorcycle accident in September of 2008. He will forever be alive in our hearts and the memories of those who knew and loved him. I wish I could say that I knew him, but unfortunately I only met him once, on Halloween in 2007. Mark and I had been dating for a year and his brother and his wife were in town so we had them over for dinner. I remember that he was quiet, and tall and handsome. His wife was really sweet and kept talking about their new puppy, calling him “crazy Charlie”. I kept having to have her repeat it though because I couldn’t understand what she was saying (she is from Spain, very strong accent). They were kind and gentle people and I felt as though they were already family to me. And then a year later, he was gone. I was angry for a long time because I never had the chance to get to know him. But that pales in comparison to the feelings of loss and pain that Mark and his family carry with them everyday. Thankfully, his spirit and beauty live on in his son Jay David, born just two weeks after he passed.
Happy Birthday Jay, we love and miss you.